Grief during the Holidays | Guadalupe Regional Medical Center

by Chaplain Tom Jones
Executive Director of LIFE Care Services

There isn’t any proper or flawed option to deal with the vacations. Some could want to comply with household traditions, whereas others could select to vary all of them collectively. Whichever feels pure to you goes to be the appropriate method, however keep in mind to be with household and people who you take pleasure in.

It is vital to include your grief in your vacation celebrations. By that I imply that stress is commonly attributable to the perceived must put apart our grief, if even briefly, in order that we will take part on the “good times.” And that usually can go away us feeling as if now we have dishonored the one lacking. Things will not be like they was and pretending it is just will increase the harm. I consider that talking of your beloved and doing among the following instructed actions will each honor the reminiscence and respect your grief. Once others notice that you’re comfy speaking about your beloved, they’ll relate tales that can add to your nice reminiscences.


  • Hang a stocking with their identify.
  • Sing their favourite Christmas tune on the household gathering.
  • Donate a present or cash in your beloved’s identify.
  • Burn a particular candle of their reminiscence.
  • Do one thing for others by volunteering on the native shelter, in a hospital or nursing dwelling on the vacation, on the native meals pantry, in a disaster middle or on the air port to pour espresso for stranded vacationers.

Don’t be afraid to specific your emotions, and simply as importantly, it’s good to permit individuals to consolation you.They must really feel they’re serving to ultimately. Remember, anticipation of any vacation is a lot worse than the precise vacation.

Things which can be worrisome indicators:

  • Isolation – Don’t shut your self off to the celebrations and folks. Laughter and pleasure isn’t disrespectful.
  • Reckless conduct – The harm may appear simpler if we masks it with behaviors that contain threat. This doesn’t work!
  • No relaxation – You must keep away from further stressors and get loads of relaxation. Decide what you actually need to do, and what will be averted. The holidays will be draining, however with the lack of a cherished one, rather more so.

Opportunities that GRMC affords to deal with grief throughout the holidays:

  • Grief Support Group (This group meets every month on the third Sunday at 3pm within the Rev. Nell Ferrell Linebarger Chapel)  – This is an open discussion board for group dialogue of our grief experiences. We speak and cry and uncover issues that work and issues that don’t.
  • Tree of LIFE: Holiday Tree Ornament – When you make a $10 donation to put an decoration on our lovely vacation tree, you make a present that honors and memorializes your beloved. You are also serving to Hospice Services proceed to serve these in our group as they battle by essentially the most tough instances of their lives. Each decoration, displaying your family members names, might be positioned on the vacation tree situated within the Central Lobby of GRMC. Contact the Guadalupe Regional Medical Foundation at 830.401.1367
  • The Teddy Buerger Center (TBC) is the one licensed therapy middle in Guadalupe County and affords outpatient chemical dependency and psychological well being providers to youngsters, adolescents, and adults. For extra info please name 830.401.1367.

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